who said its ever easy?

my girlfriend posed this question to me yesterday and suggested it be what i blog about next... she asked...


"So what traits do you look for in play partners?"


for those of you who haven't figured this out... my partner and i are in a polyamorous, D/s, female led, kinky relationship.  what this means is that we are predominately with each other, however, we are each free to play with others, date another person if we choose, and yes, in some circumstances i let her wear the panties and boss me around, tie me up, and spank my ass.  there i said it.  


so we've been doing this a while now and she notices that i don't have a specific "type" of person that i play with.  so she wonders what it is that i look for.  so i sit here to write it all down.  above all else i want someone intelligent.  intelligence is the number one priority.  creativity is a second.  if you look at the few people i've played with, they've all been creative.  very intuitive thinkers.  i dont have a preference when it comes to looks.  i do say though, i dont like them "super skinny" and i do have to have someone i believe could "overpower" me if thats what the scene calls for.  dark hair.  i have a thing for dark hair, nice teeth, pretty eyes and nice smell.  


they have to have a drive for something.  i dont care whether its cars, football, their job, but something... passion, drive, interest, zest.  i like "manly" men... guys who arent afraid to get dirty but clean up well.  i like guys who enjoy and appreciate music and good movies.  


so as you see i dont have a type per se... but rather a few traits that make me smile.  i think its just like picking out a car.  you might like the body style, but it doesnt have the interior features you want... so do you buy the car?  usually not.  you wait for that one to come around that makes you smile and say "yep... i'll take two of those...."  


Enigma.