welp, lets see. my girlfriend thinks im a masochist. while i tend to claim that i am not, and i will deny this until the end of the earth i can say, i do enjoy pain... if given properly, with adequate warm up, with the right mindset, and with the right person. so my partner wanted me to write about how i mentally get to the place where i can enjoy pain and not curse her until i scream my safeword....
its all about the build up. for me, this may take days, or even up to a week to get ready for. its something that i crave and in order to tolerate it, i must first crave it. its definitely not something that can just randomly happen. while i can tolerate a spanking, maybe a light paddling, flogging, etc... the dreaded mode of torture is the cane. i hate the damn cane and curse its existence.
external stress is a huge factor. one that causes me to need pain, as well as one that causes me to have a more difficult time processing pain. if i am dealing with child issues, work issues, and the like and cannot put them aside enough to enjoy myself mentally then there is no way i will be able to tolerate that mode of pain. i may be able to tolerate others, but not as harshly. i can always tolerate rope... the more tightly bound i am, the happier of a place i can get to, and the more i can tolerate. if i am unable to move, it seems i can handle more pain as well. if tied too loosely and not in a way that prohibits motion then i squirm more and can move when i anticipate a swat. blindfolds help too, this way i dont know when its coming.
i am very much a sensual person, so to prepare for pain it definitely helps to be touched softly, have the right music on, the right lighting... the dogs put away. (nothing like having a dog bark at you to end the mood.) i have to regulate my breathing, and the caning needs to be rhythmic. strangely enough i need the strokes to coincide with the music and my breathing. oddly enough, i take pain much better when there is more than one person there. it also makes it easier when there is good energy and ample trust in the person delivering the pain.
and the last bit i wanted to add, is that a little clit stimulation or vaginal penetration helps take my mind off the negative sensation, and focus more on the positive sensation. if i am about to orgasm, or close to orgasm i can pretty much take and enjoy anything.
with the right people, the right mood, the right mindset and the right circumstances pain can totally set me into an orgasm... it takes work, it takes practice and its a learning curve for everyone... myself included.
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